There is really no easy way to end a relationship. Whichever angle you may look, there’s no ignoring the fact that your soon-to-be-ex is going to get hurt. However, if you think the relationship is not working out for you anymore, then getting out of it might be the best thing you can do. Even if it could hurt a person, you can still make the whole situation better for the both of you. By using the right words, you could totally save your and your partner’s dignity despite the breakup.
Figure out why the relationship didn’t work out for you
Although this is not a blame game, you can make a mental list on why you think the relationship wasn’t healthy for you already. It may be a general or specific list and can range from not sharing the same interests to lack of communication. By doing so, your decision to end it would be a lot more clearer to you and your partner, as well.
The moment you break the news to her, explain the list you’ve made in a vivid and non-judgmental way. As what was said, every relationship shouldn’t be a blame game. Keep your intentions clear. This way, your partner might understand better why you have come to such decision. Furthermore, it will lead her to thinking that this was not some overnight or spur-of-the-moment reckless decision you’re making.
Arguing with him/her is the least you should be doing
Now that you’ve dropped the bomb, your partner might explode into emotions and words you might not have expected – the thing is: expect this to happen already and be prepared for it. However, whatever she might say or feel, it’s never advisable to argue with her. Considering the fact that you have already hurt her, countering her statements will just make matters worse.
Instead of doing so, listen to everything he/she says and acknowledge her feelings. Most probably, the situation will be much harder for her than it is for you.
Take time to reassure her
Don’t just leave her hanging after you’ve broken up with her. When you do so, you will just make her feel more confused and even hold a grudge at you for the rest of her life. Instead, make it a point that you reassure her. Tell her that she will definitely be the best girlfriend for someone else. Acknowledge her strengths and why you have been attracted to her in the first place. This will not only keep her self-esteem in good shape despite the breakup, it will also make you appear less of a jerk to her. After all, she used to be an important part of your life back then. At least, she deserves a decent breakup.
Don’t expect a breakup to go by smoothly. Every breakup will always be a mess, but if you know what to do, it will definitely be less messier than you’d expect it to.